It was November 2018 when Tj and Cai’s love story began, two souls on their quest for true and lasting love happened to cross paths.
He lives in the sand-covered Qatar while she is based in the grassy New Zealand. Introduced by a common friend, they seem to get along and despite being a thousand miles apart they relentlessly delve in discovering more about each other on a deeper level. It wasn’t just a series of messenger chats and video calls that kept them going. Having a shared faith and commitment made them become persistent and believe that there is more to this special connection they have blossomed.
After almost a year of daily phone convo, Tj visited New Zealand to personally meet Cai and needless to say, to make things official. It was a short but an epic moment travelling and exploring the picturesque New Zealand with friends and family.
Now, the time is right for us to tie the knot. We believe that it’s not about the length of time you have spent together that matters because when you realise you want to spend the rest of your life with a person, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible. For us, what truly matters is that you genuinely and unconditionally love each other with trust and respect, as well as having God unceasingly building your relationship into one that will last a lifetime.
We couldn’t be more excited to start our happily ever after and we are so looking forward to celebrate with you!
“It’s better to be similar”
Others have argued that similarity is probably beneficial in relationships - after all, then we will be more likely to enjoy the same pursuits, values, and outlook in life.
Tj and Cai both love to be involved in church ministries. In fact, they found out soon after that they came from the same church in the Philippines and were used to be part of the same ministry which is the ushering ministry.
Oldie but goodie, we cherish listening to old christian songs and love songs. We appreciate anything old or ancient that stirs our hearts.
We also have mutual interest in reinventing recipes or creating a new technique in prepping food. Yes, we love food as well. Tj likes cooking while Cai is a baking goddess.
Lastly, we are somewhat homebody - we just adore the warmth and the simple pleasures of being at home. However, we also enjoy nature trips or bush walks. We do this from time to time to get some fresh air.
He is very vocal and expressive while she is a bit reserved.
He loves okra. She hates okra.
He is tall. She is petite.
He doesn’t want solo travels but she wants to try it big time.
These are just some of the opposites that we knew we have. We reckon there’s more to be added in the list in the future.
While it’s true that having opposing traits or ideas, especially on big subjects, can create friction, it is by no means a sign that you can’t work together as a couple. You just have to learn how to deal with your differences, talk things over properly and know your boundaries.
Our goal is simple. We aim to pursue God together as a couple more than we did when we were single persons.
We want to live as a good example to our future children, be a source of encouragement to our families and friends, and above all, to love each other forever without keeping any records of wrong; always ready to forgive; slow to speak, quick to listen, and slow to become angry.