We started chatting on OKCupid. His first line to me was "How much does a polar bear weigh?"
Me being insecure, I thought this guy was about to insult my weight. So I replied "I don't know, how much?"
And his reply, which made me melt, was "just enough to break the ice". This is when I knew that this guy is going to be adorable.
We met in person on 27 March 2016. Our first date was meant to be a lunch but it turned into a lunch + movie + sleepover (I wouldn't let him drive at 3am when we were still talking).
He used to go drinking with his work friends on a Friday after work, and on our second date, he went out drinking, his phone died, so I didn't know what was going on. I assumed he stood me up. At around 11:30pm I get a quick call saying that he's by the gate. By this point I am MAD. But I'm not about to let this idiot drive home that late at night, so I open for him. He gets out of the car and says "imsorryimsorryimsorryimsorryimsorryimsorryimsorryimsorryimsorryimsorry", I'm sure he practiced it on the way to my place. I'm pretty into him at this point so I tell him to come to bed.
I think if I was a little more horrible, I would've sent him home and we wouldn't be in this position. We wouldn't be GETTING MARRIED!!
27 March 2021, 5 years after meeting.
We leave the day before to Drakensville, because I really like the place and plan to get married there (spoiler alert: struggled too much with communication, decided to look at other venues). I expect that good things are happening this weekend, because I bought a ring! And Alex wouldn't dare say no to my wedding proposal.
I arranged my engagement plan with the ladies in the office and they were getting the chapel organized for me so I can propose.
So we go on the Saturday morning (on our anniversary) to an adventure park so we can have some fun during the day. Everything is set in motion, we'll go out, have fun, go back to the resort and watch the sunset in the chapel where I will propose.
At the adventure park, we go zip lining from a super tall tree, which was scary AF. We also do boring paint ball shooting and just chill and watch other people do the scary zip lining thing. we've been quad biking once before so we decided to do it again at this place with the amazing views. We have to wait for the quad biking because there's a list of people wanting to go.
I left the engagement ring in the car because I didn't want to leave it at the resort where people have access to it. Alex goes to the car every now and then. I worry that he finds the ring.
Eventually we go quad biking and Alex goes to the car again "to get his phone". The quad biking is fun. I enjoy it, Alex looks like he's enjoying it less than I am. We stop at a place to take photos. It's beautiful, I'm looking at all the pretty things. Alex tells me to go to another spot and stand there so the guide can take a photo of us. I do what he asked. He gets on one knee (*right knee). I'm freaking out because THIS WAS MY PLAN. He's messing with my plans. I can't say no, because you have to wait until I propose, just a few more hours. So I start laughing. Alex tries to explain to me that "that's not the right reaction" but I'm so freaking excited and nervous and so very, very happy. I say yes, of course I will marry him. And call him a dummy for kneeling on the ground with the long grass sticking into his knee.
After the drive I'm super happy, I keep looking at my bracelet. He got me a Pandora bracelet with the letters "IOU" (I owe you an engagement ring) on. I'm ecstatic. But now I've still got the ring I'm proposing with, and I sure as hell won't let him be the only one proposing.
So when the sun starts setting I tell him we need to go celebrate at the chapel. I take a champagne with us to make it more legit. We get there and there's a sign saying "private function". I go in and Alex is like "we can't go in there, it's a private function", and I tell him we can just go look quickly, I'm sure the people won't mind since there's nobody in the chapel currently. We go in and there's rose petals and candles along the aisle. At the pulpit (thanks mommy) there's a blanket, 2 seats, champagne, more candles, and decorations. Alex is very uneasy about this whole being in the chapel thing when other people are expected to come in. I sit down on the seat and he's very much against it. I ask him to sit down and he refuses. He tells me it's a private function and we can't be there. I tell him that it is a private function.... ours..... And finally he starts understanding that something is going on here. So he sits down, and I take out the ring and get on my *left knee. And I propose to him. He's so dumbstruck that he says yes but he's feeling very strange because he didn't expect this part.
We end up finishing the bottle of champagne that the resort supplied to us, played some putt-putt in the evening and had a great evening further...